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Bit Rusty...
Posted by Amethyst Anne
* disclaimer...all X's have been forewarned about the following post, so there will be no legal ramifications for the stated below....signed and dated....."
So, X and I have been together 12 years, and what I have noticed over the years is that "our" special day, sometimes goes by without either of us actually noticing.
This is not our fault, in fact, over the years this has caused many a dispute in our house about when we "actually" got together and worse yet how many years we have been together. You see, we got married two days after we started dating (4 years later) because we tried to pick the "day" we actually got together, but, hell the year we got married it didn't fall on a Saturday so by default we picked the closest day.
For us, we don't usually celebrate our anniversary with much fan fare, we don't give Hallmark anymore money, and we definitely do not do gifts, we do....dinner...out.. which for us can be a huge thing. So this year, we decided, as usual, no gifts, no cards, and no dinner out...( for those of us that 'cook' the dinner.. this day usually means something to me...) meh!
Now, because our anniversary fell on a week day, we decided to delay dinner out, let's face it, getting all romantic on a Tuesday night....sheesh...
So, Tuesday rolls around, and X and I start our normal day... He rushes out the door to work, and I am left to rouse the cub - get him to school on time, and get my ass to work...somewhat on time (have I mentioned how flexible they are on this...)
I finally get to work, ( oh yeah I was frigging late..THAT is another post) and I log into my work email.....
send receive 15 emails.....
*Fuck...*
Email number 10 comes in...
X to me....
"I'm at home. Email me here"
*WTF* You just went to work.....why are you home???
Several emails jostle back and forth and well....he's not feeling well....
*bing* email notification....
Rat...my sister...checking in... (we are weird and we know it, we are 5 years apart, best friends even though it took us many years to get there - worst yet, our husbands, knew each other and are best friends .. ~sigh~ yet another post)
" Happy anniversary -and assorted stuff censored here... What are you doing for your anniversary?"
Email pings are flying, ping- pong- ping- pong......He's at home I say.....
" Maybe he's at home, doing something special for your anniversary..."
" I'm Sorry have you met my husband, I will bet you 10 bucks he's at home working ..special...ha?? "( bit of a running joke here cause her husband sends her flowers all the time and secretly I am jealous...but I digress)
Girl Brain....
*.... you think, maybe, he's at home.. working on something special...that would be weird....*
work interferes.. emails are flying...
"what cha doing X?? "
" not much.."
* girl brain kicks into overdrive.... omg... today he took the day off... to do something special... 12 years....it's going to be romantic and awesome- if he cooks I will keel over*
8 work hours later.. and a 45 minute commute later...
Call from cell phone....... me to X
"can I call you back I'm on the other line...click"
* Seriously...ok..so you ARE planning something...hot damn....."
I open the door... put my stuff away...no bells, no whistles...well except for the cats... they greet me with exuberance...
* where's my cub? Where's my guy????"*
Both are on the computer..one playing Lego and one working.... I look around the house... no special table set...no dinner started, no candles......hummmm
X sees me.... "Happy anniversary ...." big kiss, big hug...
I go and change into domestic me.....from work me... and X comes into the bedroom......
" I washed the sheets! I didn't know what to cook....And there is beer in the fridge"
* ggrrrrrwwwwlllllll.....you washed the sheets! nearly faints*
So it's good to learn things about yourself... while I did have a fabulous anniversary in our own domestic bliss...
Our romantic life may be a bit..... rusty....
So, X and I have been together 12 years, and what I have noticed over the years is that "our" special day, sometimes goes by without either of us actually noticing.
This is not our fault, in fact, over the years this has caused many a dispute in our house about when we "actually" got together and worse yet how many years we have been together. You see, we got married two days after we started dating (4 years later) because we tried to pick the "day" we actually got together, but, hell the year we got married it didn't fall on a Saturday so by default we picked the closest day.
For us, we don't usually celebrate our anniversary with much fan fare, we don't give Hallmark anymore money, and we definitely do not do gifts, we do....dinner...out.. which for us can be a huge thing. So this year, we decided, as usual, no gifts, no cards, and no dinner out...( for those of us that 'cook' the dinner.. this day usually means something to me...) meh!
Now, because our anniversary fell on a week day, we decided to delay dinner out, let's face it, getting all romantic on a Tuesday night....sheesh...
So, Tuesday rolls around, and X and I start our normal day... He rushes out the door to work, and I am left to rouse the cub - get him to school on time, and get my ass to work...somewhat on time (have I mentioned how flexible they are on this...)
I finally get to work, ( oh yeah I was frigging late..THAT is another post) and I log into my work email.....
send receive 15 emails.....
*Fuck...*
Email number 10 comes in...
X to me....
"I'm at home. Email me here"
*WTF* You just went to work.....why are you home???
Several emails jostle back and forth and well....he's not feeling well....
*bing* email notification....
Rat...my sister...checking in... (we are weird and we know it, we are 5 years apart, best friends even though it took us many years to get there - worst yet, our husbands, knew each other and are best friends .. ~sigh~ yet another post)
" Happy anniversary -and assorted stuff censored here... What are you doing for your anniversary?"
Email pings are flying, ping- pong- ping- pong......He's at home I say.....
" Maybe he's at home, doing something special for your anniversary..."
" I'm Sorry have you met my husband, I will bet you 10 bucks he's at home working ..special...ha?? "( bit of a running joke here cause her husband sends her flowers all the time and secretly I am jealous...but I digress)
Girl Brain....
*.... you think, maybe, he's at home.. working on something special...that would be weird....*
work interferes.. emails are flying...
"what cha doing X?? "
" not much.."
* girl brain kicks into overdrive.... omg... today he took the day off... to do something special... 12 years....it's going to be romantic and awesome- if he cooks I will keel over*
8 work hours later.. and a 45 minute commute later...
Call from cell phone....... me to X
"can I call you back I'm on the other line...click"
* Seriously...ok..so you ARE planning something...hot damn....."
I open the door... put my stuff away...no bells, no whistles...well except for the cats... they greet me with exuberance...
* where's my cub? Where's my guy????"*
Both are on the computer..one playing Lego and one working.... I look around the house... no special table set...no dinner started, no candles......hummmm
X sees me.... "Happy anniversary ...." big kiss, big hug...
I go and change into domestic me.....from work me... and X comes into the bedroom......
" I washed the sheets! I didn't know what to cook....And there is beer in the fridge"
* ggrrrrrwwwwlllllll.....you washed the sheets! nearly faints*
So it's good to learn things about yourself... while I did have a fabulous anniversary in our own domestic bliss...
Our romantic life may be a bit..... rusty....
